The launch of the Shackles of the Warrior was very successful. The media had quite a few questions to ask. Here, I share with you a few of them with my replies.
Q:- Is comparison with successful Heros bad?
Yours fingerprints are unique. There is no one else like you. Why are people unhappy to possess what someone else has? It is human nature to compare ….
Comparisons are not bad, if you can compare, you can compete and if you compete, you can win. The competitor’s present status and performance invigorates you. Comparisons can be used to motivate or correct you. These comparisons become a problem when they are used for all the wrong reasons like branding or making oneself superior to others or when one compares thereby eliciting a wrong response like admitting a sense of defeat etc. it is only then, there the problem. In these cases, they destroy the souls. Then what do we do with comparison?’ A positive benchmarking leading to positive thoughts are fine, but do not get into negative benchmarking leading to nefarious thoughts.
Here is a sample for you for negative benchmarking. There was a hunter who bought an amazing bird dog. It could walk on water, and even hunt for ducks running on water. He showed the dog to his friend praising its efficiency in hunting on water. His friend did not compliment but found fault with the dog saying that this dog cannot swim, while his dog can swim. This is clearly negative benchmarking. See the positive side of such comparisons.
The creator expects each one to do what one is capable of, at any point at any time. He does not expect an ant to haul logs of timber as the elephant in a forest. The ant should not compare itself with an elephant and start complaining. There is an ancient Indian story about a mouse who was constantly distressed because it was afraid of cats. A magician took pity on it and turned it into a cat. Immediately, it started fearing dogs. The magician, therefore, turned it into a dog. Now the dog began to fear the tiger. So the magician turned it into a tiger. Right away, it began to fear the hunter.
Finally, the magician was so disgusted that he turned the tiger back into a mouse and said, “You’ve got the heart of a mouse. That’s what you are and therefore you shall remain just that.” Hence we need to know what to look at and what to overlook.
You cannot put your legs into another man’s shoes and walk. Live your life. There is an old proverb: ‘If you compare yourself with you, then you are living. If you constantly keep comparing yourself with others, then you are only existing and not living your life.’
Now do not take me wrong: Effort minus expectations by all of us should not be interpreted as if we are commoditizing our efforts. There exists a difference in terms of the skill and the will of people. After all, the winners in the globalization era create a dent in the market by pursuing differential positioning. It is not uniformity in approach but leveraging the differences that leads to success in today’s globalized era.
A few of us are Creators of Core Competence, a few are Enablers, a few are Operational experts, a few are Maintenance Experts, a few are Regulators, a few are Compliance Providers and a few are the Physical Workers at the bottom of the pyramid.
The Bill Gates or the Dhirubhai Ambani is creators of core competence. Chanakya could not have become King Chandragupta or vice-versa. The great advisor Birbal could not have become the Great Emperor Akbar. A successful coach cannot become a successful CEO. Knowing your strength and leveraging it is the key for your success. We simply accept our competence levels and revolve around them. ‘Does the rose plant worry any day about whether a lotus will flower on its branches?
In much the same way, does a jackfruit tree worry about whether a coconut will grow on it? Even if a neem tree wishes to grow sweet cherry fruits, will it succeed?
Whatever flower you are, the same fragrance will come from you. Hence find out what you are basically! Focus on the roots rather than the fruits.
Steve Jobs said – ‘Some find their passion early in their life, some late in life, and some never in their life’. – Stay Hungry, stay positive, know who you are and chase your passion. Live your life on your own terms!
Life is a marathon not a sprint run! Run your own race. Don’t try to win the game by peer rivalries. Today he may win, tomorrow you will win. But you will eventually win – Have the belief!
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